Things you never, ever do in marriage….if you are guilty of any of these, stop it,

you are not going to have the marriage you desire.

1.         Never raise your voice, cats hiss, dogs bark, it is a crude form of dominance by the ignorant.

2.         Never put your hands on your mate; don’t need a shaking or a pinch or an arm twisted or restrained physically or slapped, male or female.

3.         No name calling; fool, idiot or worse, it will alienate.

4.         Never turn your back and walk out or leave, Jr. High school.

5.         Don’t freeze them out with silence.

6.         Don’t keep score and remember past offences.

7.         Don’t reason and excuse or try to explain our offense and injury or downplay another's expressed pain.

8.         Don’t turn things around and justify your offence and injustice.

9.         Don’t interrupt … Prov 18:13  “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.”

10.       Don’t use the children to settle a dispute.

11.       Don’t argue in front of the children.

12.       Don’t use humor to cover up truth…sarcasm.

13.       Don’t talk outside, don’t run down your mate to others.

14.       Don’t use sex or the lack of as a punishment … “Enjoy your victory Mr. but this place is about to be a monastery.”

15.       Don’t fail to listen with body language, lack of eye contact.

16.       Don’t harden yourself against your mate… “I won’t change…I will never again be affectionate.”